The terrible two’s, tantrum threes, fiendish fours…. I’m sure there are more but you get the point.
My DS (dear son) is a few months over two now and is creeping into being defiant, stubborn, and on occasion just terrible. Truth be told I have no idea how to handle it. I read articles every once in awhile about how to deal with this age but its easier said than done. I’m the worst at being consistent.
He honestly is so smart, and I know he understands me when I tell him not to do something and even provide good reason not to do it, but in his two year old brain its like he could care less!
In our house we handle this with mostly spankings and time outs but threaten taking away favorite toys occasionally. No specific order or number of warnings involved, and that may be the problem. No hard steps are followed before consequences come. I follow through with what I threaten and even give opportunities to take back the punishment that is given but still a lot of the time get no response from my DS to want to try and change his attitude or recognize his actions were wrong.
I guess its just a phase but how do I know if I’m doing this whole parent and punishment thing waaay wrong? How do I know that I’m not raising some evil person?? I don’t know.
What I do know is that I am doing my best to raise my sons and I Pray every day that God would lead and guide me to raise them. To raise them in the way that they should go, to raise them to bring light to His face. I pray that I will raise them to love everyone and be kind always. I’m not sure if there is one person, even an expert, who know this whole parenting thing or hasn’t made a mistake. I praise God I have his grace to rely on and so will my children. I will do everything I can to raise my sons right but knowing that the Lord has a plan for their life, knowing that my sons will receive his grace, forgiveness and love always makes it a little easier to go day to day because I might make mistakes as a parent but God, He doesn’t make mistakes as their heavenly father.
Train up a child in the way he should go;
Even when he is old he will not depart from it.